OK you may have guessed out the gate that this has nothing to do with design, or maybe it kind of does in a totally vague and abstract way. Anyway I just need to kind of get this off my chest.
Where the hell have peoples manners gone? Is it all people all over the country? Is it transcontinental and globe covering this rudeness that everyone seems to have caught?
I have just about had it up to here with the countless people I run into on a daily basis who are just rude. The other day on a RARE occasion someone walking in a door as I was walking out of it held the door open to which I replied, "I appreciate it." Now this may be one of those little Southern expressions that other people are uninitiated to but in the South that is interchangeable with thank-you (which is something else I hear less and less frequently). The person looked at me quizzically registering an expression of surprise that I had offered any gratitude at all. That my friends cuts to the core of my problem. At what point did manners become something delightfully unexpected? If I have one more person rudely shove me, or bump into me while so intent and busy to get to wherever they are going without an excuse me or I'm sorry I almost reenacted a moment of the Iron Bowl just then, I will lose my manners and scream at that person (in my fantasies) or at the very least give them a withering glare. There are a lot of other things lately that also just make me question what is happening to people, specifically some personal experiences that have just left me a little bruised and irritated. When did people become so damned self-centered that they can't even hold doors, or say excuse me, thank-you and let's not hope for sir or ma'am. Where I come from hospitality is generously given as is gratitude and thanks. I don't know if this is making sense because I don't want to write anything to personal but I just wish people would stop being so self-centered and behave a little more conscientiously and graciously. I guess you can't expect much from strangers though when the people you actually associate are inconsiderate.
So to sum up just in case people out there don't know if you are a guest in someone's home, you are just that a GUEST. While your host wants you to be comfortable, you in turn should be thankful and not make your host/hostess' life a living hell. If you are an hour and half away and gas costs $3.60 and I'm a girl who will be driving alone both ways do not give me a guilt trip for bowing out on your invitation to a lunch that is going to be shorter than the drive. Oh yeah and I also have had the flu whether you believed it or not and declined so I wouldn't get your kids sick.That's right I was thinking of YOUR best interest, novel concept You may also want to practice not snorting in disbelief when someone tells you they are sick and then acting like a spoiled and wounded child. If you are coming into town to see someone else and want to make time for me that is great but if the time you are making for me is realistically just to use my home as a truck stop and bathroom break on the way to the other people, please don't bother you are obviously on a tight schedule. As am I, which is why you shouldn't leave your 15 minute poddy break arrival window to "Friday night, Saturday morning whatever" so that I put an two thirds of my weekend on hold for 15 minutes of you being self-absorbed and pontificating just for you to leave abruptly. So, no not "whatever", I am an adult I have things I need to do, things in the coming week I need to make preparations for. Even the cable guy gives you a day with a five hour window and calls ahead. Okay I guess I went ahead and made it personal....
